I have been studying different aspects about psychology and human behavior during these last years and I have learned very valuable lessons about our way to express and related with other persons from these studies and my own experience. These are lessons which I am using to improve myself now, and I work on it every single day of my life, because I have came to realize the great potential that they have for many people that has had or have problems socializing with other people. This post is a call for all shy people to overcome their fears, to realize their great potential and start showing it to the world, to the people around them. If you are not shy I am sure you can learn from this post and share it with somebody else who you think may need it or apply it to your own life.
Unfortunately, most of the great people that I have met in my life can be considered as shy people, most of the greatest minds I know, most of the best people I know, most of the more sincere, kind, lovely persons I have met, are shy people. I was one of them, and still some of that very shy guy that I was a few years ago remain inside me. Shyness limits people potential so badly that depending on the degree of shyness, people can limit their ability to get a job or find love. Shyness is like a ghost, or a voice inside you that never goes, you have to learn how to fight with it every single day of your life, every moment and every interaction you have with another person. The pathway to overcome shyness is long and hard, but at the end brings to your life great rewards. Overcoming shyness open to you the doors of glory and the understanding of a new world, a world far away from fear, pain, emptiness.
From my big experience dealing with shy people I have managed to recognized patterns in their behavior as well as what are their fears and their weaknesses among other people which are not shy. And from these interactions, the major weakness I have recognized in most shy people is the lack of capacity to show others the great potential that they carry inside their minds and their hearts, great potentials such as love, faith, desire, intelligence, honesty and thousands of great ideas, great qualities that are hidden because fear control their lives. Shy people do not externalize all the power that they have inside themselves, they don’t communicate what they are and what they are able to do to the world; unfortunately, shy people is usually ignored by the rest of the society because of their lack of abilities to communicate effectively with others.
There are a lot of different lessons to learn about overcoming our fears and we will develop them in this blog periodically, taking ourselves to a new way of understanding of our own capacities and our own reality. The way we communicate what we are can take us as far in our relations with others that we can be amazed of what we can achieved after that!
One of the things I have learned so far is that shy people don’t express themselves with their bodies in the same degree as social people do. One of their weaknesses is their misunderstanding about communication. Someone could ask me why a shy person should take care about their body language, if they are happy with themselves; although is true that you must be happy with yourself the way you are, the way you communicate your ideas, your thoughts and yourself it is as important as the value of your ideas, your thoughts and yourself. Unfortunately in this world our most important sense, among the 5 senses we all use, is our vision; and our vision determines, according to science, 55% of our communication (through body language, eye contact, etc). I’m not pretending here to give you a guide to all the positions you could adopt when communicating with somebody else, but better, here I want you to think about how do you use your body when you talk to others, how do you feel when you assume different postures? Stand in front of your mirror and start playing around with your body, discover by yourself the great potential that your body has to express your wonderful interior, discover how many new gestures you can make and start using it when expressing your ideas, opinions, thoughts, they will flow with power then when you are talking to others. Start finding all you can do with your body, dance and act and see how far that it takes you!
Our body is our best way to communicate to others, analyze how well you are using your body, how far you can go by moving it, making gestures, etcetera. Start playing with your face, smile to a stranger and see their response, open your arms and feel the freedom that it brings, straight your back and feel the power flowing from your interior, look ahead not to the floor, look to others eyes, feel the honesty and security that brings you! Learn how to use your body, you can do it by modeling your friends or famous people or you can experiment yourself, the best laboratory is the world!
Remember, is not bad to be shy, is how you let shyness affect you that can limit your power. If you learn how to deal with it, you are going to have more tools to become successful in life.
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